I’m done, y’all.

What Is Apathy?

 Webmd says: “Apathy is when you lack motivation to do anything or just don’t care about what’s going on around you. Apathy can be a symptom of mental health problems, Parkinson’s disease, or Alzheimer’s disease. It often lasts a long time. You may lack the desire to do anything that involves thinking or your emotions. The term comes from the Greek word “pathos,” which means passion or emotion. Apathy is a lack of those feelings.

“But it isn’t the same thing as depression, although it can be hard to tell the two conditions apart. Feeling “blah” about life is common in both conditions. It isn’t sadness or anger, either. Rather than feeling these emotions, you don’t feel much of anything. Things that used to make you happy don’t excite you anymore. You no longer feel motivated to achieve your goals.

“Everyone loses interest in things at one time or another, but when it happens a lot, it can affect your relationships, your job, and your ability to enjoy life. Treatment can make a big difference, so talk to your doctor or a mental health professional to get the help you need.” Quoted from WebMD: https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/what-is-apathy

This is me right now. I struggle with anxiety, but now it seems apathy has come to visit. It”s unpacked it’s bags and doesn’t show any signs of leaving. I don’t want to let it get comfortable, and need to find a way to get it to leave before it takes up permanent residency. Anxiety and depression are on the back porch, where they hang out and encourage Apathy.

I hit a wall, y’all. It was a small thing that triggered it, as often happens. The straw and the proverbial camel’s back. I found out that I am going to have to start going into the office three days a week. I didn’t realize that they were in the process of establishing a brick-and-mortar office in my town, but apparently they did. They said to me, “Hey you get to go into the office now! Three days a week! Oh, and you get to greet visitors and answer the phone, too!”


My face: What’chu talkin’ about, Willis?!?!?

Y’all, this is not happy news. I haven’t worn a bra in a year, and the thought of getting in real clothes instead of t-shirts and lounge pants makes me want to hurl! AND, and . . . I am currently in a temperature controlled environment. One that is controlled to my liking, and it’s COLD. Eskimos would be cold. I am 1) post-menopausal and 2) overweight. My ideal temperature range is 68 to 70 degrees fahrenheit. Summer and winter. I will be sharing the office space with a co-worker, a lovely woman with whom I get along. She is delightful.

But she is skinny. She is older than I, but very thin. Very thin people generally get cold easier. I can’t stand to be hot. I will take my desk fan but likely I will be a sweaty mess by afternoon, especially in the summertime. The office windows face west, which means afternoon temps are likely to be sweltering, even with AC.

I am verklempt.


What does this have to do with Apathy? you ask. I’m so glad you asked! I have three years to retirement, and I was told that this job would be fully remote, even after COVID. I was so excited because that’s always been my dream. To work in HR and to work from home. I thought I had it made. I was going to skate into retirement exactly the way I wanted to do it.

And then bam! That rug was yanked out from under me, and now I have to go into the office 24 hours a week. I don’t like it, y’all. Before you offer to call the whaaaambulance, I really do love working from home.

Call whine-1-1 !

I thought I had it made. I thought everything was gonna be great until I retired and now this. It just made me hit a wall. I just can’t take it anymore! Yet again, something I loved was taken away from me. I’ve gotten to where I no longer trust happiness, because every time, it gets taken away. I had the perfect little house that I’ve always dreamed of, and it burned to the ground after I only lived there three years. I raised two children by myself because their dad’s new wife didn’t want him to spend time with them and he let her. I had cancer in 2015. There are too many things to list here that have happened and I just feel like I can’t catch a break. As each of these things happened, I pulled myself up, stepped up and kept a positive attitude and kept marching forward.

Then yesterday in a virtual meeting, the owner of the company blasted the Leadership Team and yelled and said the “f-word.” He went from zero to 100 because he didn’t like that something hadn’t been done. I don’t know why bosses and company owners feel the need to blast their team and make them feel like shit. I don’t think he thought about how demoralizing and demeaning it feels to have the boss go off on us like that. He does this on the regular, too. He fusses about all the “red tape” we have to go through to get things done. He doesn’t understand that he went from a small 20 person company to a 75 person company and that there are rules we have to follow, especially in California and that’s why I was hired. But he doesn’t like it, and he often bypasses rules and regulations to hire someone he wants. And we can’t say no. He is the owner of the company.

I was furious when I found out I have to stop working from home three days a week. Then the boss went off on everyone in the meeting. I can’t anymore. I just can’t. I have a letter of resignation all made up but I need this job so I haven’t sent it. It felt good to write it, though.

I am now apathetic. I am completely out of f*cks to give. I feel like I’ve got a 100 lb weight on my shoulders. I don’t care about pretty much anything. Work asks me, “Are these forms fine?” I answer, “yep.” Didn’t even look at them. It would serve them right to get sued for non-compliance because they don’t like the answers I give. Right now, I don’t care about anything and I have absolutely nothing left to give. I’ve pounded my head on the wall so long I’m numb.

This will pass. Meanwhile, I’m just sort of numb.

Thanks for reading. If this has or is happening to you, you are not alone.


To Vaccinate, or Not To Vaccinate. That Is The Question!

Today, I received my first of two COVID-19 vaccinations. I had the Maderna vaccine, and will have my second one a month from now. It was an easy process. It was a clinic put on by our local hospital and was held at the Fairgrounds. They have a large building and their set up is efficient and fast. I barely felt the shot as he gave it to me and then I had to go and sit for 15 minutes before they would release us. They want to make sure that we don’t have a bad reaction to it, I’m sure.

Now. About the vaccine. I really don’t want to get political on this blog, because the hate that spews from both sides is ugly. Just ugly. Regardless of presidents, in my opinion they pushed through the vaccine too quickly. No, I don’t believe it’s made out of aborted babies, nor will it alter your DNA, nor does it contain a microchip. I do not believe that there was a second shooter on the grassy knoll in the Kennedy assassination in 1963. I do believe they had a man on the moon and it wasn’t a Hollywood fake out. Conspiracy theories make me roll my eyes and wonder if our country is filled with paranoid, delusional people who believe anything they’re told. But I’m judging. So let me rephrase. For ME, I think these conspiracy theories are ridiculous and a waste of most people’s time. But, as a friend once told me, just because you are paranoid, it doesn’t mean they aren’t after you!! 😛

What I didn’t realize is that the vaccine isn’t approved by the FDA yet! I didn’t know that until I read the pamphlet they gave me. After I had the vaccine! But it appears to be having a great deal of success, and it seems to me there are two risks — stay unvaccinated and risk getting COVID, which can 1) kill you or 2) leave you with lingering lifelong symptoms. Or, you can have the vaccine, and risk minor side effects, and roll the dice that it won’t cause some sort of long-term health problems, like some sort of auto-immune disease. Comme ci, comme ça.

I have medical issues that make me high risk for death if I get COVID. I have diabetes and I’m overweight, I have had cancer in the past, etc. etc. It made more sense to me to get the vaccine than risk getting COVID. I expect to have a good outcome.

But I digress. I have a very sore arm and feel a little weird. I had the vaccine this morning about 11am and now it’s nearly 10pm and I just feel weird. My 90 year old mother had zero side effects other than feeling tired. I feel dizzy, my ears are ringing, and I have a monster headache. But I have to wonder if that’s psychosomatic, because I’ve been on the alert all day for changes and symptoms that perhaps I’m just making myself feel them. I can see the little guy on the control panel in my brain, throwing up his hands in disgust saying, “Fine! You want symptoms? You got symptoms!”

At any rate, I will keep an eye on things, try not to think about it, take some ibuprofen and go to bed, curl up with my cat and a good book, and try to rest.

WARNING: The opinions on this blog are the opinions of the author only, and in no way imply that you need to believe the same way. Honestly. Hate comments will be deleted.

Thanks for reading! I’ll keep you posted.